Seriously, not hanging around with awesome people only leads to a life full of regret. Losers are so toxic. Kinda like smoking. You’re nauseous the first time or two, but you quickly get used to it. Pretty soon, you forget about the cancer they’re making grow inside you. There are a lot of losers out there — most of them like being that way, and have zero desire or any incentive to change.
The sad thing is, few of us actually realize the definition of a loser. I’m sure if I met (insert the celeb you admire most) he/she would think I’m a loser. That’s because there’s levels to this game. I actually spent years hanging around with people who did nothing but smoke pot all day and/or drink and do pills of all sorts. I didn’t get anywhere near where I wanted to be, and if you’re reading this, chances are you can relate.
Not saying I always engaged in the same stuff they were doing, but often did. I stayed on that same crappy level in life for so long because we’re all the sum total of the 5 people we spend the most time with (credit to the late Jim Rohn). Worse off, people with low standards don’t push their friends and family, they accept them for who they are. They push them down — literally and figuratively.
- You don’t really like your friend(s), but you’ve known them since you were kids, so you continue to hang out “just because”.
- You realize they’re such a loser, they’ve lost everyone around them, and you let compassion override good judgement.
- You’re forced to hang out with someone who’s negative and dragging you down because they’re friends with a spouse, or someone you actually enjoy spending time with.
- You don’t like confrontation and know they love it — it’s easier to put the time in than face the drama that’s sure to follow breaking up with them.
- You simply fear change and don’t know how you’ll fare in the friendship “dating” scene.
- You realize one day that they talk behind your back all the time — just like they do about others with you.
There are lots of reasons we all stick with the devil we know. I’m telling each and everyone reading this that the juice is worth the squeeze. You gotta hang around people who bring you up. Otherwise, you’re better off being alone.
Losers are like this:
- They always talk about themselves — you feel like you’re interrupting them when you try to talk about yourself.
- They have no drive or ambition — but complain about the state of their life constantly.
- They waste their time doing drugs or engaging in other self destructive behaviors.
- They put you down all the time — despite all your efforts toward being positive.
- They think self improvement is stupid (“I am what I am!”)
If you want to attract better quality people into your life, you simply have to ditch the losers. It’s so freeing when you do, because when you do so, you’ll become more attractive to the types of people you’ll want in your life.
I decided to systematically ditched the losers in my own life.
It’s important to state at this point that I’m not a dick. Not at all. I’m more the guy who’ll take in any stray dog. The socially inept, unmotivated types who do nothing but piss and moan about how life’s conspiring against them. At least I WAS that person! 😀 Once I became self aware, there was no turning back. It’s not that hard, just stop hanging around with people who don’t align with your goals and values.
I remember the last loser. This guy was a real piece of work. Bilking the system, living on disability (which is peanuts) when he was perfectly capable of working. His parents, who he lived with, had to go to an elderly home, and he was suddenly homeless. This guy ended up living in the woods on the edge of my town because he simply found something negative about every roommate he had.
He was the type of guy who’d taught himself to deal with life by never accepting responsibility — for anything. I felt sorry for the guy, make good money, and so found myself always buying him stuff. One day after bringing him a bag of groceries, he basically went off on me about something dumb, and for the first time in years, I wanted to put a miserable person out of their misery.
Screw that noise!
Enough was enough. Over the years, I’ve ditched the losers. Those people who accept mediocrity. People who think we come into this world typecast by our surroundings. Folks who wake up every day with no aspirations for tomorrow, and hate to smile even just once in a while.
It can be hard at first. You have to be mindful of that clock that will never stop ticking until you’re dead. If you’re used to attracting losers into your life, it’ll take a bit to learn how to communicate with the good folks out there.
Just start avoiding them slowly — even abruptly — and your life will improve on all levels.
Do you surround yourself with losers?
You’re the best,